Losing Respect

Happy Fourth of July!!! I hope you are enjoying the extended weekend with family and friends.  I'm not trying to take too much of your time so today's post will be brief.

We have all been at that point in our life where we didn't want a relationship but wanted all the benefits that come with it;quality time, gifts and the experience. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to be fully committed to someone (titles) but you are selling yourself short trying to get "the experience". If you want them to really respect you don't do it. They will probably see you as someone they can't take seriously. The person you are fooling with is okay with the fact that this is only a temporary, casual and non committal thing. Yeah you may agree to this but what if you start to have feelings for this person or you end on bad terms....are you willing to loose a friend because of that?

~Amore~

Grown Men and Gossip Pt.2 (The Other Woman)

Last weeks post I talked to the men about gossiping with other women and how it can cause relationship issues. I also stated in that post that once the info is out women can either help or destroy the relationship. If you didn't read it here's a recap. Pt. 1 Well ladies today I want to address your faults in this issue.  Confronting the other woman.

Please do yourself a favor when you realize your relationship issues have been exposed to another woman. Don't confront her...at all.....ever. This is what she wants and you would look like a fool. I won't say she didn't know because she did.. The person you should definitely speak with is your beau.  When you confront him don't be the crazy girlfriend. You know the one you see on TV breaking things, yelling while moving herarms all over the place. Instead talk to him in a calm yet stern voice. This will scare the shit out of him. He expects you to go crazy just so he can have a reason to leave. So that the other woman can have him. She wants to destroy what you have and he is possibly stuck in the middle. (unless this is his way of saying I'm done) This is when you have the decision to work it out or leave. Hopefully its not too late to repair the damage that has been created. Only thing is that once he breaks your trust which he has done it takes a lot to repair it. Are you up for the challenge?

~Amore~

Grown Men and Gossip Pt.1

Men gossip more than women do. Point blank period. If you didn't already realize that then you must be living under a rock. Glad you're back with us. So..I don't have a problem with men gossiping because I do it daily. The problem that many other women and I  have is when you open your mouth to other women about our relationship issues. You are causing more trouble than you know. Well....there is probably a reason behind it but that is another post for another day. When you tell another woman your relationship issues she has two options; help or destroy. Let me give you an example;

Mike:Things are not going well with Ashley and I.
Dawn: Really??? Whats wrong?
Mike: I mean she just complain about little stuff. I told her I was with the guys and I came in after 2am.
Dawn: Why would she be upset you told her you was hanging out it ain't like she don't spend time with her girls! Just silly.I mean the clubs are open to at least 3.She act like you was with another girl. You sure do know how to pick them.
Mike: That's exactly what I said. She just don't know that I....never mind I just wish she could be understanding like you.
Dawn: Ain't nobody like me babe.(chuckles)

I could be exaggerating but sooner or later this is guaranteed to happen. Women can be very manipulative and competitive when we see something we want. I want to talk more about this the next two days since other things also factor into this issue.

~Amore~

Who cares its just Facebook

Short and sweet is what its gonna be tonight peeps.

When I first registered for Facebook, I was excited to reunite with people I haven't seen in a few years. Now I look at it as an excuse for people to be nosey or cause drama. I rarely find myself posting statuses throughout the day. Now I'm not saying I don't look at the website during the week because I do.
However, I usually see the same things; relationship updates, party invitations by club promoters or friend request with people I don't even know. Its so frustrating. To be honest every time you change your relationship status from single to complicated it makes you look indecisive. Just because we have six mutal friends doesn't mean that I know you personally, we just hang around the same crowd. I know you are doing your job but seriously Im not interested in parties that have sexual innuendos in the title such as Barely There Party. Not my thing anymore so sorry. I now see why many of my friends are deleting their page.

Are you fed up with Facebook as well?

~Amore~

Second Best

Relationships are never easy. It can become even more complicated when you add another person to the equation. Whether it is emotional or physical cheating, its still the same. Someone is playing second best.

Sometimes you can fall victim to this without even realizing what is going on. You might have a platonic friend that is in a relationship and tells you all their problems. Mistake number 1. Don't allow them to confide in you especially if there is the slightest attraction between one another. You might begin to take sides and become emotionally attached. Thinking they will leave their partner is mistake number 2. That will never happen and if they do it rarely will be you.

Physical cheating is being selfish plain and simple. You feel as if two are better than one when really you should just be single. If you cant commit fully to one person why hurt their feelings? People react to things differently what you might feel as a small mistake they may see as grounds for a breakup. That's when things become messy.

Relationships are difficult but with hard work anything is possible.

~Amore~

Relax and Unwind

Hope you all had a great weekend. Since it's Memorial Day some are still enjoying their three day weekend. So, its official summer and I have absolutely nothing planned. Only because I plan to relax and unwind before the fall semester of school. Last weekend was very relaxing, I spent time with my family and my sweetheart.

Friday I went to a new poetry spot called Nashville Social Exchange, it was very nice. Something different than the usual club or bar scene. Everyone was cordial with one another. there was a live band and they rocked the house, every member was great at their own talent. Saturday I spent the afternoon learning  more about my area. Since I recently moved I still don't know where everything is. It was quite an adventure, good thing my sweetheart was there to guide me along the way.

Saturday evening I played cards at my cousins. I love playing cards with her. We talk a lot of trash especially me and I usually end up losing. Or maybe I just let her win. I will never tell. But, that is usually how our impromptu parties get started. All we need is a deck of  cards, a little family gossip and a good bottle of wine. Sunday I went to a birthday party with my sweetheart. It was nice. His cousin, the birthday girl had a great time. She had so many cards and cash!! I realized that I will be having more parties in the future. Hopefully I be as lucky as her when mine comes.....(June 16)

Today, Monday, I hope to get some things around the house done. I still have a few things here and there to put up. But I couldn't do that until I talked with my followers. I also want to get finished with my list.  (The List) I'm currently working on number 3 cooking more and trying new meals.

How was your weekend? Did you spend time relaxing or was it a busy three days? If you started a list how far are you from completion and what is going to be on your next list?

 Have a great Memorial Day!!!

~Amore~

No One's Perfect/ Breaking Promises

So if you can recall a previous post Welcome Back I stated that you wouldn't have to wait longer than two days for a new post. Clearly I was unable to keep my promise. But if you didn't know by now promises are meant to be broken. I didn't want it to happen but life happens. We do it all the time ladies, like when we change our mind about different things, we have broken a promise. You might not say i promise but by just speaking what your plans are its a commitment that the other person is expecting to happen. So if you think you might not be able to be committed don't make plans to do anything. Just be unpredictable but don't expect a lot of people to be okay with that.  Good Luck.

~Amore~

Wednesday- Its Just Facebook

Running out of time

Well once again its the beginning of the week, and as you already know its Weekend Recap. Its never enough time to truely enjoy the last two days on the week. If only I was an heir to a multi billion dollar company I wouldn't know what it feels like to work. Oh well.

So on Friday I went to see Jumping the Broom by T.D.Jakes. It was such a great film. All the actors did a wonderful job and really gave you a glimpse into the character portrayed. It would be really nice if there was a sequel to the film.

Saturday I went to Bailey's Bar to see the Mosley and Pacquiao fight. I really don't care for boxing but I'm trying new things in 2011. It was so intense, of course I had to go for the little man thinking he would be quick on his feet. I couldn't have been more right. They call him Pac-man and I could definitely see why. The fight lasted the full 12 rounds and he didn't look tired at all. I became a Pac-man fan that night.

Sunday was Mother's Day so of course I spent the day with my beautiful mother and darling sister.  We had a very nice relaxing time at home just enjoying each others company.    

~Amore~

Tuesday-Breaking Promises

Life in the Fast Lane

Well if you are just waking up from a hangover I'm sad to tell you that today is Monday!!! So get up and get ready to start the work week.  As every Monday I provide you with a little insight to my wild and crazy life (not really).

Friday I went to see Fast Five, the last Fast and Furious movie ( I think). The movie was fantastic! All the actors from the other movies were in the latest film and it was just what i was expecting to see. Fast cars and money. There is one scene in the movie where The Rock and Vin Diesel have it out. All I have to say is that The Rock put up a good fight. The man spit out glass...wild. I would definitely go see the movie again.

Saturday I finally moved everything out of the old place. Next time I'm paying movers to move and setup the new place. Its so time consuming and i just don't have extra time for that. Sunday was very relaxing and spent fixing up the new place. I hope that it can be done within the next few weeks so I can have a house party. Enjoy your week!

~Amore~

Case of the Ex

Hope your weekend was great. Here's a Sunday post since I promised you wouldn't have to wait more than two days for something new.

Be very careful that you don't fall into the trap of the ex. Especially since summer is around the corner. You might catch them at the mall with their friends looking really good. Don't take a second look. Don't think that it could work again. Don't even make eye contact. (just kidding)  Don't even call them to say hello. I say this because they are your ex for a reason. Just think about that last sentence. I will even type it again. They are your ex for a reason. No matter how much you try to make it sound, the subject is the same. Ex.  Meaning they were once apart of something and know its not.

Very simple yet we try to include this ex in many things we do. I can say without a doubt that as you're reading this you are thinking well it was because of this or that reason as to why you didn't last. but really its because of this or that reason that they are an ex. Everytime you think about the ex just say NEXT!!!

~Amore~

Something old something new

Happy Hump Day!!! Just a few more days until the weekend. Since everyone is talking about the Royal Wedding I thought I would put a little spin on it.

An American tradition for the bride is to have something old and something new. Something Old is meant to represent the link with the bride's own family and the past particularly mother or grandmother or even most distant relations. Something old is symbolic of continuity. Something New represents good luck and success and the brides hopes for a bright future in her new married life.Wearing a new item on your wedding day conveys the message that you and your husband are creating a new union that will endure forever.

So I just have one question, when is the last time you spent time with an old friend? I'm guessing if you are busy like me its been a while. Try to take time out for that special friend who was with you for quite some time. All it takes is a simple text, phone call, facebook message, tweet.....you get the point. With today's technology you could talk to someone at least five different ways. All I'm trying to get at is don't forget about the people in your life. If your friends are like mine they probably wouldn't mind getting together and meeting the new friends in you life. The more people the more fun that's bound to happen.

~Amore~

Something Keeps Pulling Me Back

Why do we always complain about the person we are with to others but then take them back with open arms?

 I asked this question the other day in hopes to come to one clear answer as to why so many people put themselves through so much pain. The responses I got were just about the same; we have history together, we love each other, we sometimes just push each other’s button or my favorite response opposites attract.

The one answer that stood out the most to me was from a male friend who decided to give his relationship one more try. He felt she was worth it at the time. When he said this I thought to myself why would you put time and effort into something that you aren't for certain about?  However, once I thought about all the chances I gave someone at one point thinking things would get better, I realized that that’s what love is all about, taking risks for the person you see fit as your companion. The only hard part is making that decision. The only advice I can give you is if you do decide to take back that person and try again make sure you don't let everyone know everything. You will look like your holding on to a lost cause. No one truly knows your situation but you. Good luck on whatever choice you make.

~Amore~

Living for the Weekend

 The weekend is over and it's time to get ready for the work week. My weekend was very exciting I wish it didn't have to end. Friday night my sweetheart and I went on a double date with a classmate. His girlfriend was quite interesting. I'm going to think positive on the situation and leave at just that. We went to see Scream 4. I am a huge horror film fan. I don't know what it is but I love to be scared. The movie was fabulous just like I thought it would be. When I was younger I watched the Scream trilogy and really enjoyed the who done it plot. I thought I had it figured out in the most recent film but I was completely wrong, I enjoyed that it had a different twist at the end.

Saturday night I went to Bentley's House of Soul for a birthday party. A majority of my family came to celebrate. DJ Crisis was there and I was too hype. He definitely knows how to get a crowd going. I don't think there was one time where people weren't on the dance floor. Since the dance floor is my favorite place to be at the club, I don't think I moved from there until it was time to go.  I also ran into an old friend while there which was a nice surprise.

I need to get back in the gym because Sunday morning I woke up with leg cramps. Going out the previous night showed me how out of shape I really was. Sunday morning I went to church with my sweetheart. I really liked the service for Easter Sunday. They didn't have a guest speaker like some churches sometimes do but they had a skit of a Roman soldier telling his story of the cruifixication of Jesus Christ.  They also have an amazing praise team called Acapello. The group consists of eight adults but they sound as if it were a full mass choir. They have the most beautiful voices.

~Amore~

Welcome Back

So I promise you this is the last time you will have to wait longer than two days for a new post. I have moved into my new place and love it. I still miss my roommate don't get me wrong but being on my own feels great.  I dont have much to write about today so I hope you enjoy your Easter weekend with friends and family.

~Amore~

The Truth as I See It

Good afternoon beautiful people! Today's post is coming out a little earlier than usual but I’m trying something new. The other night I was talking with a close friend of mine and she asked a question that every woman has asked at one point and time in their life, " Where are all the good men?" Well guess what beautiful people I have come up with a valid answer. There are two maybe three possibilities.

 

1. He is already with an amazing woman

             Have you ever seen those couples when you out dining alone? (why does that always happen...Kayne shrug) They always seem to look so happy and complement each other perfectly. They even look like they have similar features. Don't be jealous your great man could be around the corner.

2. He is not into women

              Not much to elaborate on this one. He just ain’t that into you honey, he’s looking for a man himself. Watch out ladies this is the one who always rambles and can talk for hours about nothing.

 (just like a bestie..huh)

3. He is with a trifling woman.

              You might not believe this last statement but it is true. Many good men are with women that are trifling. It happens because of the 90 day rule. She seems too good to be true. Well she is! She is only acting like a caring woman to reel him in, once she sinks her claws into him it’s a done deal. (quietly snickers)

But seriously folks that's the reasons take it or leave it. All I got to say is you just have to be more careful! 

~Amore~ 

Moving on up



In one week I will consider myself truely independent because I will be moving out and no longer having a roommate. It is a bitter sweet moment, I'm excited to take the next step to becoming a sucessful independent woman however it can be a litte overwhelming. To be honest I have not packed one box. Everything is still in its orignal place (organized chaos). I constantly tell myself that I work best close to the deadline but in reality, I'm don't believe I'm ready for the big change that is about to happen.  The only thing keeping me focused is relazing that this is only a small obstacle I must overcome to achieve my dreams in life.  If you ever get to a point where you are just about to give up don't. The fight is almost over you just have to get back in the ring.

Is it really necessary?

I used to think that titles meant something and once it was in place there were certain rules both parties knew. I was definitely wrong. Just because you are given a title doesn't mean things are going to change or last for a long time. Take note from the very beginning of your relationship. If things aren't going the way you want them to don't think it will get better once you make things official. If anything that's one sure way to let the other person know its okay to act a certain way and still reap benefits. Also adding title doesn't help  it actually adds more work and sometimes only slides the dirt under the rug.  Relationships are hard work. Two people have to  put time and effort into it. If it was a one man show you would be considered single. So before you rush into having titles for that special someone make sure things are the way you want it to be. Don't settle be willing to compromise, remember it takes two baby!

Lost in Reality

The first day of the week is coming to an end and I couldn't be happier. I believe that weekends should last three days instead of two because by Saturday evening you already know the weekend is halfway over. Sadness. My weekend was very relaxing and I wish that every weekend could be stress free. Friday evening I attended a birthday/pokeno party. If you're wondering what pokeno is I will explain it in one sentence. A very addictive and  competitive game where you and your friends exchange small amounts of money(change) by luck of a card draw. It probably doesnt sound as exciting as it really is, but the game is intense. I don't play just watch other women loose their money and complain . Saturday I was asked to house sit for a cousin and it was like a small getaway from reality. I enjoyed the time away from home and being alone for two days. I definately encourage everyone to take a break from the everyday norm to enjoy life. I sometimes feel as if people  are always running from place to place without really enjoying the little moments in life that make it beautiful. Find time in your busy schedule this week  to just do something you might enjoy that you haven't done in a while. This will not only help you relieve stress but also allow you to have a relaxing moment alone and thats something we all deserve.

 ~Amore~

I Saw You Looking

Sorry I took so long to post another blog its been one crazy month. So with that said, I was thinking about dating and how women tend to not approach men as often as they should. I can definitely say that I have fell victim to this many times. I watch them from a distance and just wish I could say something witty or clever to grasp their attention without looking silly. Ladies I'd hate to say this but men are imtimated 75% of the time when they approach you. They dont want to come off to strong, say the wrong thing or even not be your type of man. So with that said the next time you see a guy that you think is attractive make him realize that you want him. Make eye contact and smile or if your walking by him just saying hello does wonders. It gives him the courage to make the next move. Try it out this weekend when you are out enjoying your weekend. You wont be disappointed!!

Weekend Recap

Since Mondays are such a drag I decided to lighten up what is considered the worst day of the week by recapping my weekend. Friday night I went to Chili's to  meet up with the girls after work. While enjoying happy hour I noticed that we weren't the only ones hanging out with our buddies that evening. Across the way were four handsome young man which is very rare. Most of the time not everyone in the group in attractive. I wont go into details on that...(another post another day). After dinner we went to see Adjustment Bureau starring Matt Damon, if you haven't seen the movie I definitely suggest you do. Its a romantic thriller(new category) about free will not being a choice and everything is already planned by a special group(hint:adjustment bureau). Matt Damon meets a woman one evening and everything that was planned could change for the worst if the bureau cant get things fixed. Once again definitely go see it. Saturday was cold and rainy so I stayed in and caught up on sleep. Sunday I went to the Muse which is a club for amateur artists to perform. It was quite interesting. I love supporting the upcoming groups however, it has to be original. There was one poet that stood out to me, to bad I cant remember his stage name. (sorry) His performace was amazing he didnt just deliver his poem but he worked the crowd and I loved that about him.
What interesting things did you do this weekend? Did you see Adjustment Bureau, if so what were your thoughts on the movie?
This weekend preview: checking out the new club "The Theatre"

~Amore~

All my Single Ladies!

So yesterday's blog I talked about switching up the scenery but I realized that I left out a very important group......single ladies. So what if your not dating someone take this time to work on you. Before you get upset hear me out ladies. I'm not saying anything is wrong with you but don't you always say to yourself "if only". So look at it this way here is your time to improve you. If you thought about taking a new exercise class, do it. If you thought about going on a daycation with your girls but they backed out, go by yourself. If you wanted to accomplish a goal in your life, do it. I could go on but I won't. I know you get the picture. I promise you ladies that focusing on you while your single is the best thing you can do. It will keep you busy and you possibly won't run into the same crowd. So think about things you wanted to accomplish and do it. I'll go first here is my list, yours can be mental but if you right it down it will help. Im only listing a few so that once thats finish I can move on. Good luck ladies!!! We can do it together.
1.Start my own blog-done
2.Go to the gym more often
3.Cook more/try new meals
4.Visit a new city alone
****when you've completed the list start a new one*****

~Amore~

Spring Cleaning

Every year around this time my mother always made me prepare for spring and summer by putting away the winter clothes and reorganizing the closet. Now that I'm older I have turned her cleaning aspect into a new concept. I'm cleaning my "closet" of all the men from last season. Don't get me wrong they were great for the time being but why stay complacent when I could always upgrade. Think about it like this you have the jeans that hug your waist just right. Every time you wear them you turn heads, now one day you're window shopping and you happen to see the perfect pair of jeans. You try them on and its like nothing you've ever worn. Why wouldn't you take a break from the old pair to break in the new one? That's all I'm saying folks give yourself time to try something new and give that man a break. Who knows he may realize you are a little distant and step his game up. That's when competition begins. May the best one win!

~Amore~

Just the Beginning

I could say that this isn't going to be like any blog you've ever read but I would be kidding myself. However, I can say that some things I have experienced in my life are like no other person. Just as the title implies I can get myself into tricky situations. Got 2 Be More Careful was created for me to share some of the things in life that have shaped me into the person I am along with other randomness that finds its way in. Since I'm single you know that I will  speak on relationships. You thought this was different right? Yeah it is, don't worry I won't spend all my time bashing men.  A little bit of everything will be addressed. Hopefully this wont be the first and last time you read my blog.  Enjoy!

~Amore~